Most couples, now and then would surely have some form of squabble over errm, in-laws(?). It's like an unwritten rule in marriages where this disagreement over them would rear it's ugly face. It must surface, sooner or later in most if not all marriages. Of course while some can blow out of silly proportions, with others it might just be an average & below major grievances. Just something that irritates may be, who knows?I don't really know if both of us would call not having this form of squabble as good fortune. I don't think we would. In our case, we'd kind of welcome it actually. Strange?
Both my parents passed on a couple of years ago. His mom passed on when he was a child & dad when he was in mid teens. When we got married, that was the thing we missed most, the presence of our parents both. A joy in getting married but at the same time, a feeling of tremendous lost in not seeing our parents at our sides.
Anyway, we were cuddling up in front of the TV one boring evening. I dinna know what sparked this off and I just said something like "I miss you both" referring to my late parents of course. He heard me mumbling and asked what I said. Before I can say anything, I went teary eyed. Well, in between sobs I explained what I had said.
I guess in all the time I've known him, 7-8 years or so, I've never seen him teary eyed, angry yes or disappointed yes but teary eyed? I don't think so. So as he hugged me tighter, I noticed his eyes were misty too. That made me sorta put my own emotions on hold. I put my fingers on both his eyes and tried to pull away the tears, like as if drying them. Why? I found myself asking him.
Later, much later when we talked he told me that at times lately, he's been thinking a lot of his late parents. Me too!! I told him. He just does not know why, me either. I'm not gonna go further into our conversation. I dun wanna bore you but it's odd it seems. Sometimes when two people have known each other intimately for many years, thought frequencies do get crossed! Have you ever come across that?
I think..
I think..
May be it's time we have kids??
